Moving in with a significant other can be exciting. After all, sharing your home with someone is one of the most comforting and intimate things a couple can do. But the inevitable truth when it comes to sharing a space is the necessity of compromise. We asked Maddie Eickoff for some tips on how she navigates the task of sharing a home with ones significant other.
Be open to unexpected inspiration.
When we first asked Maddie where she garnered inspiration for her darling, beachy apartment we were surprised to hear her say that the aesthetic came mainly from her boyfriend, Brett.
“He’s actually the one with the aesthetic eye when it comes to interior design,” Maddie explains. “A lot of people think I had to convince my boyfriend to paint or main living room wall pink. It was quite the opposite, it was his idea!”
Our takeaway from this? It’s important to keep an open mind when merging homes with a significant other. You may have your own ideas on design and styling, but if you’re open to your SO’s ideas, you may end up with a space that’s even better than you anticipated. And by being a joint decision, you can both take pride in your finished space.
Be prepared for some personal reflection.
“Something I always thought about when moving in with someone was how I was going to open myself up to their flaws. But it actually opened myself up to my own flaws,” Maddie shares. “When you live alone you don’t realize all the messy things you do, or sometimes even areas in your life you should probably improve upon.”
We all have our little quirks and personal ways of doing things. The lesson here is to realize that your way is not the only way, so be willing to make small lifestyle changes. It will make both you and your SO all the more comfortable. And of course, this tip goes both ways. Things can only be harmonious if both people are willing to compromise and adjust your behavior. Just don’t stress the small stuff!
Find your balance.
Maddie’s main concern when decorating her joint apartment was just to “have an even balance of masculine and femininity.” Living with your SO comes down to balance. Be upfront about what you feel that balance should be – cluttered to minimal, neutral to colorful, whatever you feel is important – and make sure you and your SO come to an agreement about it before too much designing and decorating get underway.
Living with someone else, even someone you love, is a process. A constant game of give-and-take. But keep these tips in mind and moving in together can be a truly delightful experience!